Life Letter | The Weird Ones Who Stay In
Last night I played the drums at a gig. It was a midnight set, so a pretty long night. I even stayed up till 2:30am watching the Chelsea–Liverpool match after (not like me).
But here’s the part that surprised me - I didn’t have a single drink.
Normally I’d tell myself I needed a few to loosen up, to be “social.” But for the first time, I was just happy. I’d normally at least need a couple before playing, let alone the general socialising while in a bar.
Fun and sober? Who knew?
I’ve always second-guessed myself when it comes to having fun.
I look around and see what most people call fun — sinking beers until you can hardly speak, staying out till sunrise, whatever’s in the mix that night.
And to be honest, it’s never really sat right with me.
For a long time, that made me feel weird, like I was missing something.
I’d watch people my age living it up on weekends while I sat at home, sometimes by choice, but sometimes out of guilt, and I’d wonder if I was doing life wrong.
Maybe you’ve felt that too.
You want to have fun, but your version of fun doesn’t line up with what everyone else calls it. You’d rather wake up clear-headed, train early, get creative work done, or move closer to something that actually means something.
But the world doesn’t always make that easy.
The system glorifies being “young and carefree.” It rewards short-term highs.
Meanwhile, I’ve found most of those nights end in anxiety, regret, and a strange kind of emptiness the next morning.
(Live your life btw. There’s times for everything, this is just a reflection on the season I’m in now.)
I’ve had those nights; the blurry ones, the “fun” ones.
And I remember how often I woke up feeling like I’d just taken a step backwards.
So now I spend a lot of my Saturdays at home.
Laptop open, music playing, writing…
And sometimes I wonder if I’ll regret it. If I’ll look back one day and think, “maybe I should’ve cared a little less.”
But here’s what I’m learning:
Freedom isn’t about doing what everyone else does. It’s about being okay doing what actually feels right for you.
So if you’re the weird one who stays in on weekends, good for you.
If you’d rather spend a few of your Saturdays building something you love, or having tea with a few close mates instead of getting hammered, go for it.
And if you do go out, have fun. Just make sure it’s your kind of fun.
Act in alignment with your goals, and you’ll wake up lighter, happier, more fulfilled.
That’s real freedom.
Book update
I’m so close to releasing a book. Fuck!!! As if hahah.
It’ll be starting off digital only + as an audiobook, so I can just get it out there and share my thoughts with the world.
Had a few people asking about a name and what it’s all about…
The 3rd Path — How to Escape the University Trap and Create Freedom on Your Own Terms
I’m still tinkering with the cover so I might hold off there.
But yeah, this one isn’t like a poetic coffee table book.
It’s instead the blueprint of how you can go live a radically different life, right now.
How you can find freedom now, instead of waiting until you’re 65.
How you can create an independent income that relies on you, not a piece of paper & an employer.
How you can live in alignment with the person you want to become, and discover that highest version of yourself.
It’s definitely not for everyone, but maybe it’ll be for you.
Can’t wait to share that soon 🙂
Enjoy the journey,
Sam
